If you don’t watch The Bachelor, you missed out on something really revolutionary in tonight’s episode. Andi Dorfman finally spoke up about how ridiculous Juan Pablo is, and the entirety of the show for that matter.
Now, I’m not usually one for crappy reality TV where a bunch of girls are dating the same guy at once- creepy resemblance to Sister Wives if you ask me. BUT, anyway, Andi broke the silence tonight. She will be characterized as a bitch now, but she broke the silence. She told Juan Pablo what millions of women in America have probably been thinking this entire time.
Yes, he’s cute. Yes, he’s athletic. Yes, he’s funny. But doesn’t he remind you of that guy you dated? The one who didn’t actually listen to what you had to say, or didn’t know any real substance about you? He took you on some great dates (that usually ended up in a hook up), but he was always really caught up in himself.
Juan Pablo is ‘that guy.’ Men, please do not use him as an example.
Andi, like many women, took the time to get to know Juan. Yes, I know he had 30 other women to worry about, but when it boiled down to only a handful, don’t you think he should have remembered some important details about the woman he had carefully hand selected for himself from such a large original group?
Andi knew his religion at the drop of a hat, just an example of what I’m trying to touch on here.
Obviously this is a TV show, and a very unrealistic one at that. But all too often, it becomes reality. Andi not only spoke up for herself, but many other women tonight.
Yes, this sounds cheesy, but this is a small victory for women who are sick of guys ignoring the words that come out of our mouths, and only looking at the superficial aspects.
Andi is a Federal Prosecutor. She’s a career woman. She is 26, single and independent. She wants to be on a level field with her partner.
Thank goodness for women who are willing to break the silence that silences us all.
“Your silences will not protect you…. What are the words you do not yet have? What are the tyrannies you swallow day by day and attempt to make your own, until you will sicken and die of them, still in silence? We have been socialized to respect fear more than our own need for language.” Audre Lorde.