Carrying The Feminine Mystique in my purse (I’m baaaaaaack)

In light of recent events, I have felt compelled to begin writing once again.

A decent amount of things have changed since I last wrote about my feelings, opinions, or insights of the surrounding world- specifically those regarding feminism and women’s rights.

Right now, I am simply in disbelief. I cannot wrap my mind around what is happening in the US. It feels like some shitty movie, where we have gone back in time and reversed the progress that has been painstakingly made over generations. Hard fought progress. Progress that should not be reversed.

To be honest, I thought that my minor in Women’s Studies would become obsolete. I thought that I would no longer have to be an angry feminist or need to proclaim myself as a feminist at all. I felt that I no longer needed to explain to those I dated why my minor is relevant or important. I thought that people had finally figured it out.

I have been proven wrong.

Oh so wrong.

How foolish of me to assume that one step forward wouldn’t mean five steps back.

In reading The Feminine Mystique, Sister Outsider, Not That Kind of Girl, How to Be a Woman, Female Chauvinist Pigs, The Beauty Myth, and so many more, it had never occurred to me that I would have to fight the fight that so many women before me have fought. I assumed that the war had already been won, and we were just waiting to celebrate our victory. I didn’t understand why my female professors held onto their rights and beliefs so strongly. As if they could be snatched from them at any moment. Now I understand why.

Those iconic black and white photos of women protesting, marching, and speaking with such conviction; images that I thought would not and should not ever repeat themselves.

I thought, “Finally, a world that I would want to bring a daughter into.”

I have been carrying The Feminine Mystique around with me all day in my purse. Hoping that it wards off any misogynistic vibes, or aids me in smashing the patriarchy.

I just bought one t-shirt, and two tank-tops exclaiming, “Women are strong as hell” and “Smash the patriarchy” and “Riots not diets.”

Now, I parooze Amazon hoping to get my hands on all the feminist books I didn’t get the chance to read in college.

Frantically, my mind races about all the extreme lengths I might have to go to to protect my rights, and the rights of all women, people of color, my LGBTQ brothers and sisters, and other minorities. But one thing I do remember from one of my women’s studies classes is this: women make up about 52% of the world’s population. We are the majority, NOT the minority. We cannot be divided anymore. We are female, we are strong, we are the majority, we are the resistance.

Stay woke my friends, stay woke.




Why I’m Sick of the “I’m 20ish years old and only travel, and don’t date” articles everywhere

Lately, I have seen tons of articles headlined with an overly exposed photo of a young woman doing something super “hipster.”


p152677162-2The article proceeding the photo is about how women in their 20’s should act. What they should be doing, what dreams they should be pursuing, and of course: how they should be interacting with men.

Trust me, I love doing hipster shit with my hipster friends as much as the next girl. I just don’t believe that yet again, women should be spoon fed how they should be acting. Once again, normalizing and creating a universal feminine experience.

Women of all ages should be able to do whatever the fuck they want. There shouldn’t be a behavior that is expected. Whatever you want you to do, go ahead and do it.

If you want to have a boyfriend in your early 20’s then by all means, have a boyfriend.

Hear me out. Being a 20 year old is hard. Life throws you a curve ball every damn day. Like when you really want to order a pizza but you only have $3.52 in your bank account. Or maybe your tire falls off your car and you call your dad crying so hard that he can’t even understand you- your first experience with AAA.

All those things are real but don’t shame the women who are happily in a long term relationship and want to stay in it. Even if they are in their early 20’s.

Anti-Abortion Bill Passes

Hello lovely readers, I am going to do my best to not lose my cool here. After recently reading an article in the Huffington Post it has come to my attention that the House of Representatives has passed a bill that prevents any form of federal funding for abortions. This means that abortions will not be covered by Medicaid, women will also be restricted in buying other plans that do cover abortions, not to mention that it would prevent the District of Columbia from using its own local funds to subsidize abortions AND eliminate the tax credit given to small business who do provide coverage (which they receive under the Affordable Care Act)


Feeling a little outraged are you? Feeling a little oppressed, manipulated, pushed aside, devalued, and/or controlled?

It amazes me that in a first world, sophisticated society which is considered to be “the land of the free” women are still faced with vehement opposition when it comes to our right to control our own bodies.

Our “sex system” is so backwards. In our schools we are SUPPOSED to teach our children SAFE SEX and how their bodies work during puberty and of course how their parts come together during SEX. But instead, we teach them (and I was taught myself) about ABSTINENCE.


Don’t get me wrong! If it is your choice to wait as a man or woman until marriage that is AWESOME! After all it is YOUR choice and YOUR body! But to only teach this course of action is simply not logical. Kids are going to have sex. And without the proper education and resources, these kids having sex will likely catch sexually transmitted infections and even get pregnant. *Cue Teen Mom commercial*

Teenage pregnancy is a pretty undesirable circumstance for most, I’m sure most teenagers would love easy and affordable access to preventative products such as condoms and birth control- BUT OH WAIT we didn’t teach them about those things and we don’t like telling them about it because it will encourage them to have sex. AKA if we don’t provide this information they WON’T have sex. LIES LIES LIES!

15 and pregnant? Some women (not all but some) may CHOOSE (AHEM) to have an abortion. BUT WAIT! That option has been wiped off of the table by some WASPS in Congress who have decided that women, be it teenagers or full fledged adults, shouldn’t have a choice.

If the bill passes in the Senate Obama plans to veto it. Cross your fingers for the women of America that the individuals who are trying to take away our right to choose will not be successful.

Here is the article I read and where I received most of my information, although I’m sure at this point there are various sources you could look to on the internet and in your local news.


The Trouble with “Natural Beauty”


tumblr_ni42kbIse21u8oyeuo2_500 An image from the Tree Change Dolls’ tumblr site

Today a friend sent me a link to a new trend that basically caused me to have a rage blackout: dolls that have been “made-under”. Labelled “Tree Change Dolls“, these are generally hyper-feminine styled dolls (such as Bratz) that have been found at op-shops and transformed through changing their hair, shoes, makeup styles and clothing, to look more normal and natural. In the words of their creator, Tree Change Dolls involve “swapping high-maintenance glitz ‘n’ glamour for down-to-earth style”.

But before you all rush off to procure a Tree Change Doll of your own, it’s worth unpacking what it means to “make-under” a doll. Is it more ethical (as the subtext of the Tree Change Dolls website would suggest) to have a doll adorned with the natural beauty look, rather than the hyper-feminine aesthetic more commonly seen? And why…

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