The clitoris wasn’t scientifically recognized in similar quality to that of the penis until 1998. THAT WAS 16 YEARS AGO.
If you’re wondering what a clitoris is, and you’re a girl… well you have one. Although the anatomy of the clitoris appeared in scientific journals in the 1800’s, it was never given the same attention as a penis. We know so much about the penis, but not nearly as much about the clitoris- when the clitoris and the penis essentially serve the same purpose in males and females.
Women know what a penis is.
We learn about it extensively in sex ed classes, and we are tested on it in our high school health education system. Pornography is centered around the penis, blow jobs are normal. Somewhere between all of these subtle subconscious lessons on pleasuring the man (this is sarcasm), a women’s pleasure is forgotten. In 5th grade, girls are only taught they they have a period- NOT that they too have a form of the male penis.
Why is this relevant to me?
Today, there is a dichotomy, a double bind, we’ll say, for women. Women, especially teen girls, are expected to be extremely sexually experienced, but a virgin. In fact, the female body itself represents sexuality, and sells sex.
We are expected to know how the penis works, and what we can do to it so that the man is pleased and sexually pleasured. Girls are giving blow jobs to boys before their clothes are even taken off. Women know how to pleasure the man. We are taught from a very young age that the man needs to be pleasured.
But when did we learn how to be pleased ourselves?
How come girls are never taught what a clitoris is when they learn what a penis is?
Also, you have one, so it’s pretty relevant. Where it is:
Some women orgasm simply from vaginal pleasure during intercourse.
Yes, this is a real thing. Not a common thing, but it is real. Because the clitoris (the major female sexual organ, mind you) has become taboo, many men AND WOMEN do not know that it even exists. How can this be? Well, maybe because women aren’t really receiving any pleasure during sexual acts. Little does the man know… you’re faking orgasms! How asinine!
Males receive much more attention in the sheets than women. Porn is for men. Even porn for “women” is for men. Advertisements use women to get man’s attention. Sex and sexuality is completely centered around men.
Why do women think sex is for them too?
Magazines like Cosmo, advertisements directed towards women, movies, music- all of these things glorify sex and women as sexual objects, and make women seem awesome and all powerful, which I appreciate. But the fact of the matter is, women still aren’t receiving equal pleasure, much like the pay gap I suppose. Movie scenes where women are pleasured are still completely absent. Sex education isn’t teaching young girls about their bodies wholly. Women aren’t talking about how their date went down on them, they are giving their girlfriends the gory details of the latest blow job they have given.
News flash: SEX CAN BE FOR WOMEN TOO!
Sooo, what do we do about this? We talk about it.
Tell your girlfriends, tell your mom. Make your next one night stand recognize that you need to be pleased too. Tell him he can make a scientific discovery unlike any other! Forget the ribbed condoms, make him cliterate!
If you haven’t heard about CLITERACY yet, you probably should check it out. Watch this video and your respect for this issue will increase some more: